Hello Rant. I have been in a relationship with this guy for the past 3 years now. He bases in abroad. I don’t know how I stayed in this relationship for this long. At first, he was nice. He even went as far as to see my people and collect marriage list because he said he wanted to marry me. At first, I thought he was joking till he went to see my people. I was not even ready, but I got pregnant in the process, so I accepted him. After collecting the list, he said he needed to go back to abroad to renew his papers, that he won’t spend up to a month, and that when he’s back, we will start the marriage preparation. I agreed to his plan. I lost the pregnancy when this guy was away. One month turned to a year. I haven’t seen him, but we always communicate. Foolish me was staying in his house before I lost the pregnancy. I forgot to add that part. So, he came back after 1 year with different promises — that he will pay my dowry and open a shop for me. I was waiting for him to fulfill his promises, but he stayed for a month and went back to abroadabroad with the excuse that his paper is not ready. I said okay. Before he went back, I begged him to give me some money to learn a skill, but he said I should wait till he gets to his base. I said no problem. I waited for another 9 months again. Foolish me, thinking I have a man that loves and cares for me. Whenever I need money for anything, I will explain my life before he will give me anything. The worst part is that I stay alone in his house. Fast forward to December, this man came to Nigeria without even informing me.
After staying in his house for 9 months alone, I don’t even make friends. I stay indoors. I only go out when I want to get something. Back to when he came to Nigeria without informing me — he was in a hotel with his girl. They even spent Christmas together. Foolish me was doing goodgirl. I forgave him when I found out. He even apologized that it won’t repeat itself again. Foolish me believed him. I never knew that I was staying with a chronic cheat. This guy cheats for a living. At times, I will see female stuff in his car. When I complain, he will manipulate me.
Because of that complaint, he will keep malice with me. I was looking at everything like a joke. I tried talking to my mom about leaving his house, but she was begging me not to because of what people would say. But now I’m traumatized. I don’t know what to do. Three years in this relationship — I don’t have anything to show for myself. No skill. No business. This man has money. Now, my beauty has faded. He doesn’t give me money if I don’t ask. But when I ask, I will use 5 days to explain what the money is for. I’m still in this house begging him to give me money to start up something, but no reply. My life is a mess now. He has gone back to his base. Please, I need advice.
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