The line between being head-over-heels and truly loving someone can blur fast. Understanding the difference between infatuation and love might just change how you navigate your connections with others.
1. Timeframe
- Infatuation: Typically transient; it dissipates once the primal exhilaration or novelty diminishes.
- Love: Persists across time and fortifies with communal experiences, even amidst trials.
2. Emphasis
- Infatuation: Pivots on physical allure, fantasy, or the fervor of being desired.
- Love: Concentrates on the entirety of the person — their virtues, shortcomings, aspirations, and principles.
3. Profundity of Bond
- Infatuation: Frequently superficial, propelled by outward appearance or glorification.
Love: Anchored in authentic emotional closeness, confidence, and comprehension.
4. Emotional Equilibrium
- Infatuation: Fervent, engulfing, and sometimes fixated; temperaments may fluctuate readily.
- Love: Consistent, assured, and soothing; it conveys a sensation of serenity and affiliation.
5. Anticipations
- Infatuation: Impractical expectations, craving incessant regard or flawlessness.
- Love: Embraces blemishes and centers on evolution, concession, and harmony.
6. Self versus Other
- Infatuation: Often egocentric — revolving around how the other individual makes you feel.
- Love: Other-oriented — revolving around reciprocal solicitude, esteem, and collective welfare.
7. Dedication
Infatuation: Shuns or grapples with enduring commitment once fervor wanes.
Love: Willing to invest in the long-term journey, even when arduous or inopportune.
- Infatuation resembles a flash — brilliant but ephemeral.
- Love resembles a constant glow — comforting, lasting, and nurturing.
In the dance between infatuation and love, awareness is your best step. Distinguishing between the two lets you appreciate the thrill of new feelings while building relationships with true staying power.
Good day, so I have a gf I have been dating for 4 years. Which I planned to get married too by next year. But during the cause of the relationship few years ago, I cheated on her. And she also did per se but not sexually to my understanding , Earlier this year I found out she was seeing someone else when I got back from nysc service. I had in plan to get married too her. So I asked her why she’s still with me even after she has seen someone else which to my understanding it majorly due to my financial and business aspects, after a while she realized The guy she was seeing actually isn’t financially okay and also she later found out the guy was getting married to someone else. I had to tell her that if the guy wasn’t in a relationship nor not financially okay, it would have been a level ground for her to break up and move on. Especially based on what has happened in the pasts. So now I asked her if she still sees me in her future. She said Yes, but I should give her time. That also she’s not really ready for a relationship aspect and possibly marriage but by this time Next year she wants to be married. I feel she’s confused or trying to still play a waiting game till the year ends. Besides I have had the conversations with her several times. In between when I found out I didn’t by any means push her I still kept being good to her and also put her on allowance. Which I have stopped now for over 2 months now. But she still calls me and wants attention from me. In terms of my business she’s been helping out especially with trips around Nigeria. But also it’s been difficult to get a new lady. I have taken time out to interact with other ladies but none are fitting my lifestyle or just want money. Besides I didn’t entice this lady with money because she came when I wasn’t really ready for a relationship. And also she has loved me even from the beginning as it took me over 2-3 months before I fell in love with her. According to her she said it’s a year it took me.. I have learnt to be accountable and work on some aspects she said was a flaw to be a Better Man not for myself but for the future and for my unborn children. She also acclaimed she knows if she’s marrying me she’s not making a mistake. As she’s knows I won’t let her suffer.
But what can I do ? Should I wait or I should move on. I’d be turning 30 in a year time and I want to be married by then. Besides I know how difficult it’s for men now to see a good valued woman.
But lately she’s been coming around calling me showing more a little care or so but I’m trying to be sure it’s not infatuation she’s just feeling