I have been dating a guy for the past 10 years (since 2014, high school lovers). He was the one that took my virginity, and I have never cheated on him, which he can testify to. He has money and gives me money too, so I lack nothing. I’m so open to him that we joke around with guys trying to ask me out because I do tell him practically everything. I started my NYSC in a different state, but I frequently travel back to our state to see him. In fact, I travel almost every month to see him. Recently, one of his friends, who is a womanizer, came over to my boyfriend’s house and has been carrying different girls around, which my boyfriend gists me about. But at some point, I started suspecting my boyfriend too because they went to a hotel to spend about a week, both in different rooms. His reason was that his friend is always carrying girls, and I said okay with a clear mind.
A week before I traveled, I went to the hotel to see him, and we stayed. Only for him to dress up and tell me that he and his friend were going to a wedding. He said his friend was invited by one girl. I got angry, but because I’m not really the angry type, I had to let it go. They dropped me off at home and went their way (we had plans to meet after the wedding invite, but he never showed up and instead gave me stories of why he couldn’t come that same night). So, I said okay and packed my bags because I was supposed to travel back the next day. So, after a week (last week), we never had issues, neither did we have any form of disagreements. On Friday evening, I stepped out with my fellow female corpers for a birthday party, which I’m not used to at all. He can even testify to the fact that I don’t have any close female friends. So, back to my rant: we went for the birthday party, and I stayed out till midnight.
The truth is, it was actually my first time not telling him about my whereabouts, which wasn’t intentional because I called him when we were about to leave, and he said he was busy and would call me back. After the party, they had already locked my compound gate, so we had to go to my friend’s place to stay (a girl too). Her compound is an open place, so I had to hold my phone tightly. I mistakenly slept on my phone, and waking up in the morning, I found a blank screen. I got frustrated and couldn’t call anyone. When I was finally able to talk to my boyfriend, I just told him that I wasn’t in a good mood, my phone got spoilt, and we would talk later. After about two hours, when I was able to fix my phone, I got scared that he would shout at me for going out without telling him and for sleeping outside my house. I stay alone too, but in a secured compound.
I called him, and he refused to pick up. Then I texted him and narrated all of this to him. Omoh, this guy got offended and said that I went to a man’s house. This is me, whom he has never suspected for once, oh. He said he called one of his female friends and narrated the story to her, and she told him I went to sleep with another man. I have called and explained to him, but he refused to believe me, saying that the relationship is over. My question is: should I continue begging him because I have never cheated on him, or should I let go?
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