I’m 24 and still a virgin. I’m an only child and an introvert – an extreme introvert and a loner. I don’t have friends or anyone to talk to. Being an only child who lost her father at 10, my mom took on all responsibilities and never had time for me, though I really wanted to talk to her. Still, I love her to death and want to make her happy. This isn’t a rant. Since I have no one to talk to, I decided to come here for advice. There’s this guy I’ve known since I was young. He asked me out a few times, but I left him hanging.
I visited him once and stayed over. We just kissed, and he said he’d wait until I was ready. Later, we lost contact for about a year, then reconnected last year. When I was posted for NYSC, he mentioned he could have helped me redeploy if I’d told him earlier. Then we stopped talking until one day, he called, crying about losing his mom. I wanted to visit, but my PPA was strict. Later, my mom told me he was married. I was hurt and deleted his number. He called, asking if I’d visit him because he wanted to take me on a proper date and ask why I hadn’t accepted him before.
I wasn’t ready to have sex then, so I didn’t want to lead him on. What I want to ask is if I should call him and tell him how I feel. I really like him, but I’m scared because he has a child but isn’t married. Even if he doesn’t feel the same, I want him to be the first person I’m with. Should I tell him, or should I move on? It’s really hard to move on.
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