So, I met this girl on Instagram some years ago. We were cool and good, but nothing was serious between us for like two years that I had known her. We were always checking up on each other, and the conversation was flowing well. But due to the distance, I had to give her space and not force things too much. Fast forward to early last year—we reconnected and started communicating again. She talked about how she was trying to move on with life after school, which was not easy for her. Luckily, I gave her listening ears and tried my best to be there for her. Things were moving smoothly—I was always checking up on her because she was feeling down about not having a job. Her best friend, whom she stays with, would always go to work every day, and she disliked the fact that she was always home doing nothing. She would cry and pray to get a good job. Thank God, she was lucky enough to secure a job with a company. I was happy for her about that, but she was still serving, so she was working and serving at the same time.
During all this time, I was trying to avoid any relationship because I had just left one that messed with my mental health. I didn’t want to build anything with anyone during that period—I was down financially, physically, and mentally. But she was there when all these things happened. I didn’t give her full details, but I told her I had recently left a relationship and was scared to do anything called love again for now. Still, we were cool. She was always there, always checking up on me, and giving me full details about her day and everything. But at that time, love was not in me. Yet, I love her, and I would want to have her for myself because she is my type of girl in every way. But the long distance and negative thoughts are not helping. I just finished school and preparing for my service, thinking about how I will start my life because, as a man, things are not easy. So, I’m thinking of giving her some space so I can focus on myself and my life because I’m not getting any younger.
She finished from university while I finished from a polytechnic. She’s now working as a full staff, but I don’t have a job yet and am trying to learn a tech skill. I really love her and want her, but I don’t want to put all my mind and hopes on her and then end up getting hurt. God, I am so scared of getting hurt when I know I’m into her. I just need advice on what to do and how to give her space without making her feel uncomfortable about it.
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