My ex wants me back, so I decided to go back to him, but I’m so much worried and confused ‘cause he gave birth last year, around August—that was when he texted me to remind me how much he loves me—that he has given birth to a child, but he wasn’t really happy ‘cause I wasn’t the mother of his child—still insisting I should come back to him and telling me how much he loves me and can never forget me. Backward to 7 years ago when we were still dating, I got pregnant for him and we decided to keep it, but my mom found out; she flogged me in my school and I got wounded on my forehead—the mark is still there till today that I can never forget. I thought if I told my mom about it, she would leave me alone; that she wouldn’t be able to do anything ‘cause I was ready to keep the baby. I slept out the night before and she came to my school then reported to the principal that I slept out so they would flog me. So when my mom found out, she gave me pi||$ to take and she ab0rted the baby ‘cause I was still very young then—I was just 16 years. My BF and I didn’t see each other for almost a week.
When we got to see each other again, I told him that the baby was gone. He was very sad and we cried; he got angry at his own mom that she caused it ‘cause she was against it ‘cause number one there is no money and they were not really okay in their family. Then it’s only the mom—there’s no father—and my BF is just a barber (stylist) and he was just 23 or so. So after all the ab0rtion thing, I started moving away from my BF. I don’t respect him anymore; I cheated on him. I don’t know if it’s ‘cause I ab0rted, but it came to be like, “Dem just open my eye.” I finally finished secondary school. Whenever I break up with him,he will always come back! I did this guy really dirty. We dated for two years before we eventually broke up when I got admission to university which is after 7 years later. I later got pregnant for my new BF, but he did me dirty. It was so bad that we broke up even while I was still pregnant with his baby. I went to meet my parents, and he didn’t contribute to anything sef, naming ooo, baby things ooo, omoo. I suffered the suffer that I have never suffered before. Later, I remembered my ex BF.
My mom was like, “We should have left your pregnancy with Lekan then.” So literally I’m now a single mother, my son is now 1 year plus, and my ex (Lekan) who wants me back, has a son who’s 6 months or so. The fact that this guy has always wanted me back over the years. In 2022, I still went to see him; he told me he still wants me back, but I refused, and I met my baby daddy in that same 2022 and I dated him and got pregnant in 2023. He still called me when I gave birth, telling me how much he loves me, not knowing I have given birth. I decided to tell this guy about what happened when he insisted on dating me back, but he said he would marry me with my child. He added that he doesn’t really love the girl who gave birth to his child and that he just has to accept the baby. I was so confused and I later accepted. I later gave my mom his name and my baby daddy’s name to pray on it for me in an alfa’s place. The alfa said my ex is okay but why did they separate us? My mom explained to them that we were too young. The alfa said they should have left us; that all this thing that happened will not have happened if they had left us now.
As we started dating again, he was sweet at first—that he would buy gifts for me and send me money. He even said he’s travelling out soon so that we might be there together; he promised me a lot but always said he doesn’t really trust me. He started misbehaving (I got admission to another school) so we would fight for weeks and not talk. I would try to talk it out ‘cause I try to understand that I was the one that hurt him, then it’s likely he won’t trust me much, and we would be cool again, but now he’s misbehaving and ghosting me again. He blocked me as usual; I know he will unblock me, but I’m planning not to ever reply to him again. It’s now the 3rd week since we stopped talking, but I’m still very confused ‘cause I still love him and he loves me so much. I confirmed through the body language. Like, the way he shows me off to his friends and siblings and family—I was even very surprised, like I didn’t believe this kind of love really existed. Everything has changed now I don’t know what to do; please, I need your advice house.
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