I have had a best friend since secondary school and we’ve been close for over five years, despite attending different universities. We’ve managed to make our friendship work despite the distance. One day, he confessed his feelings for me and I realized I had feelings for him too. We started a long-distance relationship and I was drawn to his genuine nature, love, and respect for me. He’s a giver, always looking out for me and providing support without me even having to ask. He’d give me attention, care, and affection, making me feel seen and valued. Even with limited resources, he’d go out of his way to show his care through small gestures, gifts, and thoughtful actions. I truly appreciated these efforts and felt grateful for his presence in my life. I’d often tell him that I’d always be there for him and I meant it. However, he’d express feelings of inadequacy, feeling like he wasn’t doing enough for me or that he wasn’t enough. To me, he’s the best and I value his efforts.
However, his feelings of inadequacy and fear of not being able to provide the kind of relationship he wanted for me led to issues in our relationship. Our relationship was entirely long-distance and we never had any physical contact or intimacy throughout the six months we were together. Despite this, we had a deep emotional connection. Eventually, we broke up and I stopped talking to him. Now, I miss our friendship and support. I’m regretting dating him because I valued our friendship so much. I want to reach out to him because I still want to be there for him and I want him to be there for me. I want us to go back to the way things were before the romantic relationship, where we could support each other without the complications. I don’t want the romantic aspect to affect our friendship. I’d like to ask for advice on whether I should try to rekindle our friendship or move on.
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