I met a guy two years ago through a friend. I was surprised he even started talking to me because I am a girl you’d usually refer to as “Plain Jane (unattractive).” When we got talking, I realized he had just ended a relationship that really shook him. We became friends and shortly afterward, we got intimate. I knew I had probably messed things up without getting to know what his intentions for me were, but my attraction to him clouded my judgment. Although, I still don’t regret it. He was nice and good to me, especially when I had an accident during that period. Shortly afterward, he graduated from university and had to travel home. Meanwhile, he never asked me to be his girlfriend or put a label on what we had, and I was really hoping he would. I eventually ruined things between us because of an obsessive ex who wouldn’t leave me alone. My ex cloned my phone, got his number somehow, and chatted with him while pretending to be me. I only came online later that day to see deleted text messages which I didn’t type.
To date, I don’t know what the content of those messages was, but he really hated my guts afterward, and we stopped talking. I cried and cried for weeks. For the past two years, I have been constantly thinking of him, wondering how he was doing, but I couldn’t bring myself to reach out to him. Until he did reach out a week ago. My joy knew no bounds. We have settled our differences, talked about how things were back then, and what we missed. Anyway, I really still like him, but I don’t think we’d ever be an item. I want to be fine with friendship, but then, I really hope we could be something more. I strongly believe that this is the universe giving us a second chance for us to be together. He isn’t even saying anything like that, and I don’t think he likes me that much. Do I just let go of my feelings for him and stick to being friends?
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