I knew this girl since secondary school, but we started dating when I was in 200L. Everything was going well for us, except those little fights about keeping too many male friends. Fast forward to last year, July, something happened. It was about a particular guy I was telling her not to talk to, and she decided to break up with me. After many apologies and all, she decided to continue with me. After that breakup, she normally tells me she’s not interested again whenever I’m complaining about a particular guy I don’t want her to talk to. Later on, for one reason or the other, she stopped talking to them all, so we were cool again. Fast forward to October, we started having issues again. She said I don’t take good care of her, meanwhile I was trying my best. Later on, we decided to break up because I couldn’t continue with the pressure she was giving me.
After two weeks of not talking to her, I wasn’t feeling good in my spirit because I don’t keep friends. She’s the only person I talk to mostly, so I missed her absence. I had to go talk to her, and she agreed, but on some certain conditions. She said she won’t be the understanding girlfriend she was before, that I have to be spoiling her. Meanwhile, we’re both students, and I still send her money when I have. So I agreed, and we decided to move on with the relationship. But due to one reason or the other, I couldn’t give her the kind of money she needed, and because of it, she has been acting weird to me. She doesn’t give me attention like before. She only calls and texts whenever she wants to. Anytime I’m complaining about her not giving me attention, she will say my mates are looking for money, but me, I’m looking for attention. We have not been cool for months now.
We are just there. I’m not happy at all, and I still love her. Sometimes if I want to talk to her, she’ll say she’s busy. Meanwhile, she’s just busy on TikTok or watching movies. But anytime she needs money, she’ll give me small attention, but once I’ve sent the money, after some minutes, she’ll stop giving the attention. Or, if I’m not able to provide the money she needed, she’ll be mad at me and start ignoring my messages or be harsh at me. What’s a relationship without attention and care? And this girl doesn’t have work, but she wants me to be spoiling her when I’m also just fighting for survival. I introduced a job offer to her, but she said she’s not interested. What else do I want to do? I’m tired. I’m planning to find someone better, but I’m the type that doesn’t make friends easily. I still love her, though, if she can change.
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