I’m a 29-year-old man, and my girlfriend and I have been dating since early 2020. The relationship started with love, trust, and respect, but along the line, we started fighting and having issues. We would normally break up and come back together due to her cheating attitude towards me, but I still loved her. In December 2022, she came back again after begging me, and I forgave her and let things go. Just one month later, she was pregnant for me. I decided that I wouldn’t take it because I wanted to do the right thing before having a baby. Along the line, she kept the pregnancy and stayed with her parents. I have already accepted my fate, but I didn’t tell any member of my family because I’m from a broken home, which makes me keep a lot to myself. I hoped that after she gave birth, I would figure out how to bring my parents to Lagos to meet her family.
However, just one month into the pregnancy, she posted a man on her WhatsApp status with long emotional love epistles. That made me stop doing anything for her. I didn’t do anything for her until she gave birth. None of my family members knew about the whole thing because I kept it to myself. When she gave birth, I only found out four days later. She had a C-section, so I visited the hospital and paid the bills. Now that the baby is growing, she won’t allow me to see my daughter or bring her to my house. I have already apologized for my actions. I’ve planned to bring my family down to Lagos to meet her parents so my daughter can know her paternal side and I can do the right thing. The problem is that she’s now seeing another man, whom she posts about frequently.
Meanwhile, I’ve not been with another woman all this while because I’ve always told myself I wouldn’t allow different women to have children for me. I know what I went through growing up, and I don’t want that for my daughter. I’m really ready to stay this way for the rest of my life. She’s a Yoruba girl, and I’m not. I don’t know if I should still go ahead with my plans to bring my parents to Lagos to meet hers because of my daughter. I want my daughter to grow up around me because I didn’t have that experience growing up. I need your advice on this situation. I’ve been depressed for months because of this issue. I pray I don’t die because of this. Please be kind with your comments.
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