Well, I’ve been following this platform since 2021 and I never knew I was gonna share my own story. So sometime last year, I met my girlfriend, now ex because she broke up with me. We met here too, on a post. A lady shared her story about her boyfriend not giving her enough money for her birthday. I saw my now ex’s comment when she said her boyfriend then gave her N5k for her birthday one time and she was okay and even thanked him because she knew he didn’t have much at that time. TBH, I was shocked, so I decided to follow her and then she followed back. We started texting, and I told her that was the reason I followed her. I left a t0xic relationship about a year and some months before we started talking. I’d send my ex before her sometimes at least N50k, and she’d still complain and insult me. I was glad it ended with her, and I practiced self-love and celibacy. So me and my now ex-girlfriend continued talking, and I got fond of her.
We talked about our previous relationships, y’all know how the talking stage is. So on the faithful day I asked her out, she told me she was going to make her hair. I told her to send her account so I could send her some money to add and make her hair, and I sent her N10k. The way she expressed being grateful for it, I was still shocked because if I tried that with my ex, omo, the girl would insult my life. That night, we talked about whether we were ready for a relationship. I said no at first, then I was like, “F*** it, let’s do it.” The relationship was everything I wanted because she turned out to be the best person I’ve ever been with. She has every quality of a lady every guy will want to settle down with, and that made me fall hard for her. Our relationship started in June last year, and we got to see each other for the first time in October. I made sure I gave her an allowance despite not seeing her until October. I made sure she knew everything I did and everywhere I went. I asked permission from her just to make her feel comfortable that I was loyal.
I shared my live location with her too, and I made sure I stopped talking to every female friend I had. Fast forward to this year, February, I moved to Lagos just to make it easier for our relationship because of the distance. I’d never forget these dates: 10th of February, when I moved to Lagos, and 27th of February, when our biggest fight happened. I usually tell her when a lady approaches me, and we joke and laugh about it, but for me, that was just me trying to give her assurance I wasn’t a cheat. There was this lady in my compound that approached me, and I told her I wasn’t interested and was in a relationship. I later told my babe about it. Some days later, me and a friend of mine, who was in Qatar then, talked about the same lady because I told him, and I jokingly said something that I regretted because that was what ended my relationship. I made a bad joke about going to see the lady, which I knew I was never going to do because I wasn’t even attracted to her. That weekend, me and my girlfriend got to see each other because I was even drunk that night.
I told her to make payments for stuff we got with my phone because I had given her my password to almost everything, including my Snap, Instagram, and banking details. Mumu me, while I was drunk, she went to read my chat with my guy and saw the joke I made. She didn’t confront me about it and held onto it for weeks. One fateful day, she brought it up. I didn’t lie to her. I told her, yes, I said it as a joke, but I never did it. That was how she said she stopped loving me. After everything, I cheated on her, which I knew I didn’t do, but I fucked up for joking like that. I tried pleading with her because she said she just came over to see me for the last time before ending things with me. I got my mom involved because she and my mom talked from time to time, and my mom pleaded on my behalf. She said it was fine, but I knew it wasn’t because she changed a lot. I tried my best to make her see I wasn’t a cheat. The painful part was that I was in Abuja, and I didn’t cheat. It’s when I’m in Lagos, literally close to her, that I’d start cheating?
I know the pains because I’ve been cheated on, and I’d not do that to someone I really care about. After that, we had other fights I wasn’t proud of because I did something to her that I wasn’t proud of and still regret it. I said mean words to her and tried to apologize. Some days back, we talked because I’ve been begging her to forgive me for everything since, but she doesn’t want to let go of the fact she thought I cheated on her. I had to tell some of my friends to plead on my behalf, my cousin, and my mom too, but she declined everyone. She told me recently that I should move on because there’s nothing bringing us back, even when I talked to her friends to talk to her for me. One said I had to pay her for damages, which I did. She told me she stopped loving me because I cheated, and God knows I never did. I love her so much, and I just wish I could get her back again because I’m in pain and finding it very hard to move on.
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