Good day everyone here. I’d like to share what has been making me sad here and I need your honest opinion. I’m 23 and I’m in a 7-month relationship with a guy of 35 years old and I really love him for real, but the problem is that (1) he doesn’t communicate at all. I literally force the whole communication. Sometimes I’ll call him and he won’t pick, not to talk of calling back. He leaves me unread and replies anytime he wishes to reply. I understand that he’s a busy person but you can’t be too busy for someone you claim to love. (2) Before I agreed to date him, he told me he had issues with his girlfriend and now he’s telling me that they are back together and he’s going to marry the both of us together, that he wants to marry two wives. Obviously, he has the money to take care of both. (3) Four months into the relationship, our first sex led to pregnancy and I was so scared because I barely know him. He told me to keep it but I insisted on taking it out, which sometimes he uses against me, saying his other girlfriend has been trying to get pregnant for him but she’s always having miscarriages.
Sometimes I’m happy I did, sometimes I’m so sad about it. I doubt if God can forgive me. (4) I feel he doesn’t respect me at all. How could you say to my presence that a girl was in your house before I came and you had sex with her? He tells me he’s a very straightforward person and he likes to say the truth without thinking if I’m hurt or not. A lot of red flags guys! I don’t know what to do because I love him already. He helps me financially (PS: even if money isn’t involved, that’s just who I am). I love too much with my heart and not my head. Loving too much is the only problem I have and I hate that about me, and I don’t cheat! He is the second person that is sleeping with me and this is my second relationship. I don’t think he’s helping me because he loves me, because he helps a lot. I don’t know what to do right now. I want to leave him and at the same time I love him, but I can’t be begging for love and I don’t want something I’d regret for the rest of my life. I can’t be with someone who will marry two wives and I can’t be a second wife, plus I can’t share my husband!
He told me I can’t satisfy his sexual urges and that if he marries only me, he’s going to cheat a lot. God! How can I unlove him? If the other girl eventually gets pregnant for him, I’ll have no other choice but to leave him, and I can’t also get pregnant for him till I’m married to him. I’m going crazy already guys. I love him and I want him to myself. I’m so selfish but I can’t force him to be with me alone, and I don’t want to be with someone I definitely know is going to cheat. He claims he loves me. Lmaooooooo! All these behaviors are not because I took the baby out, that’s just his behavior. I know someone here can understand my pain.
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