Met my ex early 2021, and I can say he was everything I wanted. I didn’t know that his true color wasn’t out because he didn’t have anything. When we met, he was broke. Most times, I’d cook from my house to give him in his hostel where he was sharing a room with 3 of his friends. As time went on, things started going smoothly for him, and before then, he was a bleaching guy. But I had to tell him to stop all his creams, and when he eventually did, his skin was very bad. But because of the love I had for him, I stayed by his side and encouraged him. I was the one taking care of him because it wasn’t even medical treatment we were advised to use. I would go into the bush every day to pluck leaves and other stuff to take care of him because he couldn’t even go out (you should know how bad his face was). I didn’t let him feel like his parents or family members (who were even around) didn’t show up for him. Even his friends distanced themselves a little. As time went on, he went back to his normal black skin and things were going smoothly for us.
Fast forward to 2023, he started moving funny. He cheated on me, maltreated me emotionally, physically, and even financially. Sometimes I’d ask him for a little amount of money to add to mine to get what I wanted, and he’d say, “Can’t your father afford it?” I let it slide. Got to a point he brought a girl he met on TikTok to our school and dismissed me stylishly. He said he would be going to his friend’s place for prayer time, but deep down I knew that wasn’t it. I felt he wanted time to himself because sometimes too, I just want some time to myself. I didn’t argue with him because I really trusted him. Later I found out because the girl came to my TikTok to view my profile. She was always stalking me. I decided to check her out and realized she came around because I saw my boyfriend in her October dump. They made videos together in OUR room. I was so devastated. When I confronted him, he said she was just there for one day. I brought evidence that she stayed more than one day. I found out she stayed 7 days. He tried to gaslight me and said I was the one that caused it. I let it slide.
Countless times, he cheated on me with that same girl. Fast forward to last year, when I visited him at his new place, different things happened. What baffled me was when he hit me in the presence of his mother, and she didn’t say anything—not even to chastise him. Apparently, he was the one feeding his whole family (his mother). I was speechless. She asked him to collect the phone he got for me, and he did. His mother was always interfering in our relationship. When I told him to stop acting like a mummy’s boy, he went to tell her again, and she called me, saying I was telling her son not to trust her or tell her things. You will never know peace, this woman, because what I don’t even do for my parents, I did for this family. Because of the love I had for their son, I extended it to his family. And now he’s moved on with the same girl he told me there was nothing between them—that he has been cheating on me with. God will punish you.
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