My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years now. He’s a yahoo guy and I’m a working class. We had been dating before I even got my job. He was financially okay for the first 1 and a half years of the relationship, but since then everything has just been normal. You know how yahoo works—it switches. Today they are okay and tomorrow it’s gone, and they can be like that for another one year without cashing out. I have been super supportive and I have never ever said NO when he asked for my help financially. I literally would go miles for him. When I visit him, I don’t even ask for money at all, and if I ever did, maybe because I had no option on where to get it. Recently, I have been trying to find remote job links for him because I want him to have a stable source of income, because I’m so worried. All I want to do is see him grow and get better. But we had an issue recently where I called a girl who was always hanging around him and told her to stay away from him because he had a girlfriend.
He found out but I denied it. So, he sent me evidence that I called because the girl recorded the call, and I admitted to it. But he said he’s done with me because of the fact that I stood on the lie. He said I was very manipulative. Then he later said, and I quote, “I won’t be surprised if you’re the one behind my financial problems.” This statement broke me down completely, because now I think for real this guy hates me. One thing I just realized is that for the ladies—if you stick to a man when he doesn’t have anything, you can end up being unfortunate. And if you leave when he soonest has, they call you a gold digger. WTF do men want? I’ve made up my mind to really not go back to the relationship.
I know I lie—like I would do something and lie about it—but then saying I am behind your financial problems is a lot. Who on earth wants to marry a broke man? No woman loves to be the one responsible for financial activities alone. I feel sad when I’m the one providing. I feel sad when I can’t even ask my man for money to make my hair or nails or lashes. I do these things myself with thorns in my heart. I have rich suitors who hover around, but I never ever thought of leaving him for someone who could pay my bills because fuck it, he’s the man I want. But now, of what good has that brought to me? Lol. It is well.
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