Hi guys, please advise me ’cause I’m tired, very very tired. My baby daddy and I have been managing ourselves. We met in 2020 and in 2022 I discovered I was pregnant and told him. He left for the UK, and at that time I had just graduated from the university preparing for my NYSC. I had to wait till I had my baby before going for anything. His family came to do the introductions in his absence and everything went well, and they went back to their destination. My dad was not in support of me going to their place ’cause I wasn’t married properly and they hadn’t met my man before. I had to beg my dad to please let me go so his mum could be seeing me and my pregnancy. I told my guy to rent an apartment for me; he should allow me stay in the house he built. He said that would be lonely for me, that I should stay in their family house, which his brother is also there. I was not convenient with it but just had to accept it. His mum don marry another man, so the mum is not staying with me—just me and his brother in the same compound. The brother is a chronic smoker and thief.
He took my generator and sold it out to those Aboki people for N10k. When I found out, I had to confront him, and he said when his brother asked him to buy it, that it was his name that he wrote on the receipt and he has the right to sell it. We got into a heated argument, then his mum left her husband’s house and came to shout on my head, that is it my dead father that bought the generator? Or did I bring generator from my house? I was wowed. Then she said her son cannot marry me ’cause my wahala too much, that her son is always spending on me and my son (’cause I already had my baby then), that I should better take the b@stard away. I was surprised with what this woman said ’cause I never had issue with her. I was like, is she jealous I was looking good? ’Cause why this sudden hate? This really led to a fight between my guy and his mum and the brother. They didn’t speak to each other for some days but later settled with his mum after begging him to, but he never talked to that his brother again. After some months, the man his mum married told her to leave his house ‘cause he wanted to sell it.
So she now came back to the house I was in, which was her first husband’s house. Imagine that o. After some weeks in the house, her thief son (she sided then) sold all her property and she was left with nothing. So my guy was preparing to come from the UK to Nigeria, so he told me to vacate the house and come to the one he built, ’cause he was coming home too. When he got home, he told me he came ’cause he wanted to switch from student visa to work visa, so he paid someone over $6,000. And before then, I had a dream that he should please not pay the money, that the person looked like a scammer to me. But he never listened and went ahead and paid it, and the person asked him to come to Nigeria. He withdrew from school and came home. That was the beginning of the problem. He would call the guy, call, call—this guy won’t pick o. He started going from one alfa house to another, bathing soap, ’cause na G guy then before he traveled out. So after that, any small thing he would start getting angry over little things—hitting me, beating me, and saying my leg no good. I was like, how now? Am I the one that scammed you???
Still caught him cheating with several girls in the UK when I was alone in Nigeria battling with postpartum depression ’cause I had no family around. ’Cause of him cheating, he didn’t let me access his phone again. He was now broke ’cause na all the money he dey use go alfa and different places his mum took him to, and I was now the one carrying the responsibility. He won’t appreciate me or apologize if he did something wrong or beat me. So yesterday, he did his usual thing again and hit me with a kettle on the head, and our baby was crying. This guy kept hitting me. He would tell me he doesn’t love me, that his plan was to travel and tell me it’s over. What should I do? ’Cause I’m tired and preparing to go away with my son. Please help me.
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