I have 2 siblings, an elder brother and a younger sister. My brother is spoilt to a disgusting degree. This guy can’t do anything for himself, and he’s 23 years old. He’s the dirtiest person I know. When I first gained admission, I was staying at his place. That place was dirty. The toilet was brown, and I assumed that was how it was until I washed it and realized that he was just lazy to wash it. He had never washed his toilet once until I came to the house. He’ll keep plates for weeks without washing until he has used all his plates. By that time, there would be maggots on them. I called my mom to complain, but she started shouting at me that why will I expect him to wash it, that I’m the junior one so I’m supposed to clean up after him. My mom keeps enabling him, probably because he’s her only son and her husband is late, so she has this soft spot for him. I take most of the responsibility in the house, from house chores to my mom’s business, and it’s really draining. Recently, my sister started helping more in the business, which has really eased things up. The only time my brother remembers he’s the firstborn is when food or money is involved.
He doesn’t even help to wash the car at least. Me and my sister are the ones who will still do that. If we complain to our mom, she’ll say he’s a boy and boys don’t have to work, and we as girls should stop complaining. He finished school last year, and this guy has refused to go for NYSC. He’s been home doing nothing. One time, my uncle asked him for his CV so he can help him to find a job. My brother shouted at the man to stop disturbing him. All he does all day is play video games and watch anime. I feel sad most times when I look at him. All the friends he grew up with are already working and earning for themselves, but he keeps stealing petty change from me, my mom, and my sister. Sometimes my mom will call me to report him to me about a new bad character he has developed. The moment I start talking, she’ll tell me not to talk about her son anyhow. At this point, I’ve told her not to report him to me again. Everybody is complaining about my brother—family, friends, neighbors—but my mom keeps defending him. If my sister needs money, she’ll call me to ask. She will never call my brother because he doesn’t have.
He even begs from her. My brother is currently in my school lodge, and he’s making life hard for me. My room smells now, especially my kitchen. I called my mum to complain, and again she told me to go and wash it because I’m a girl and girls are meant to work. He hasn’t stayed up to a month, and I’m losing my mind. I don’t know how long he plans on staying, but the moment my rent expires, I’m moving out. If I have to find a roommate to stay with instead of him, no problem. I actually have a nice roommate, but she’s currently not around, that’s why he’s here. I really don’t know what to do about my brother. We’ve prayed about him. I even suggested taking him to a reform home when we were still younger, but my mom refused. I don’t think this is natural. Please, if you guys have any suggestions, please drop.