My baby is almost a year old, and to be very honest, I miss my sex life with my husband. My husband and I are very loyal to each other. He’s a one-woman man. Even when temptation from other women comes, he tells me it’s not easy, but he can’t look outside, and the same applies to me too. Since I gave birth, I don’t feel sexually aroused anymore. Anything related to sex or foreplay just feels like hard labor to me. It’s not as interesting as it used to be. In fact, the way I’m feeling now, I can stay for 10 years without sex, and I won’t cheat. God sees my heart that it is not intentional, nor is it because I don’t love my husband anymore. It has caused issues between us several times, and even though my husband claims he understands, I can see it written all over him that he’s not happy about it. Even when we do have sex, it’s always boring because I don’t enjoy it. I’ve treated infections I don’t even have, but to be on the safe side, both of us treated it. I want my sex life back. Motherhood changed everything.
I also have a family planning implant on my arm, which I guess also contributed to the issue. I’m very sad about this whole thing. I love my husband so much, but my body just feels dead no matter the foreplay. I’m even tempted to use things I see online just to satisfy him so he won’t give in to temptation from other women, but I’m still breastfeeding. I can’t use those products. Please, what can I do? Recommend something I can get within my reach that won’t affect my baby when I breastfeed, and that would be effective in making me feel aroused again so my sex life can bloom.
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