Back in my school days, I went to a party with a couple of my guys and then there was this black chick at the party and funny enough she was friends with one of my guys. Based on OG level I said make I approach her, but me I was a shy guy. So I asked my friend for her number and he was like this girl is a rich kid, he wanted N5k for the number and I paid for it because this chick was hot. I got the number and texted the chick. She opened my text that night and didn’t respond for a whole year. Then luckily I met this girl at my school after a year and then all of a sudden we started vibing, chilling together after school and this chick would cook for me. Then one faithful day we were in school. At this time I was in 400 level and she was in 300 level. She and her girlfriends came and hung around me and my guys. Then one day she came with her friends and a boy, he was a classmate. After we hung out that day, I told her I was gonna escort her. She told me not to worry and I said okay. She left with her friends but I forgot my phone in her purse because she was watching movies with it while we were together. Only for me to go back to her and get it, I saw her kissing the boy.
I took my phone and left. I was furious but I didn’t react because my friends were waiting for me. I didn’t talk to the chick for 2 months until one day my friend came to the house and said she paid him N15k to talk to me and then I finally replied her. The excuse was that they dared her to do it and I said okay. So we talked for a while and resolved that part of the issue. Now let me take you guys 1 year 8 months later. I had left the school and then she also graduated, so she started learning how to install wigs. I’d go pick this girl up from work every day and still we had a fight one day. She threatened me with breakup and shit, but we didn’t break up officially. The day she mentioned the breakup she blocked me on WhatsApp. The next day she unblocked me and then posted on her status. She was in one of these Prado jeeps someone had hired to take her out (remember we hadn’t officially broken up). After going on the date with the guy, she came back to my DM to tell me I was at fault for not apologizing to her during the argument. I was like okay then. Then she proceeded to say, “It’s not like I don’t care about you babe, I care, but sometimes when you’re angry you just have to do some things.”
The thing she did when she was angry was go have sex with another guy, and this didn’t happen once or twice. We dated for 4 years plus and this happened each year until the most recent breakup. After the breakup, she posted in another guy’s apartment in about two weeks, and that same day she texted me “I miss you.” I was devastated. Then we got into an argument and I asked who the person was and what she went to do there, and she said “I can’t tell you, you don’t need to know.” But this same girl still wants us to get back together after this. I really don’t know how to react. My head’s been messed up for too long but we’re done now though. I just don’t think I can ever be in a relationship without second guessing the person because I’ve had the worst 4 years you wouldn’t believe.
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