I was in 200 level when we met in school while he was in 400 level. I didn’t agree to date him until after a year after he graduated. When I accepted to be his girlfriend, it was like a dream come true. I experienced love and affection from a guy for the very first time in my life. This guy was so intentional about me, even while he was in Lagos and I’m in school in Ondo state; he would make sure he spoke with me at any given opportunity. After graduation, he started working at a hotel in Lagos as a supervisor. I went to Lagos for the first time in my life when I visited because the hotel provided accommodation for him.
In fact, my very first beach experience was with him and other good memories I could think of. After I graduated also, I went to visit my sister in a city of which I told him I would like to learn fashion designing while I was there. That year, he gave me a sewing machine as a Valentine gift with so many other beautiful things. As of 2020, he also asked me to rent an apartment of which he paid for. Later that year, he told me he would like to buy some house equipment like a bed, fridge, and other stuff, of which he came down to the city I was and bought all of them and put in my room (he was given accommodation at his workplace), he didn’t bother to rent an apartment of his own.
I also advised him that year that he should come and set up a business in the city I was so I could manage it for him. He withdrew #800,000 from his savings and came down to my place where we bought all necessary things and furniture for the business. The business was selling Gotv/Dstv and we were also doing POS with it. We didn’t ask much about the business before we ventured into it; it was a total loss. We could buy Gotv for N6500 and the next week; the selling price had been reduced to N5500. It was so bad that we couldn’t even restock after selling the ones we had at a loss price.
In 2021, NYSC called; I tried all my possible best to do my relocation back to the city I was so I could maintain the business since he didn’t have the chance to come and monitor the business, but all my efforts proved abortive. I was posted to the Eastern part of the country, of which I had to leave the business for a friend whom I trusted. He squandered the remaining money which we were using for POS and closed down the shop. He also got two bikes which he gave to two riders, Lagos State officials seized the bikes and we didn’t hear anything till today. Same year 2021, my boyfriend lost his hotel job and went back to his parents’ house.
He got another job, but the pay wasn’t enough like his previous job, but he was able to manage with that. So, there was a land his mom bought and she advised him to go build on the land; so, since 2021-2023, all his savings and salary were targeted to the said land. It got worse that even if I asked him N1k he wouldn’t give me; he was so focused to the extent that he doesn’t care about my well-being anymore; meanwhile, I was doing business at that time, and maybe if there are no sales and I ask him for some money, he will tell me to go close down my business and go look for work.
Now for three years, the money I received from him is not up to N20k but I still stayed with him. He has finished up the house project and carried all his stuff to the house, including buying some unnecessary stuff that he does not need. Because he wanted the house to be his taste; he didn’t even allow me to have a say over the interior. Now it was a long fight at the end of last year when my parents asked him to come and see them and to see our pastors, he reluctantly came because obviously, he has spent all his savings for the house and some other stuff. He lost his job again early this year around February, and he has been staying with his friend since that time while I now work and send him money sometimes if need be,
because I have to pend my business since the economy is not encouraging. My rant now is that what do you have me do? Our relationship will be 7 years by December and no arrangement whatsoever for introduction or anything. My parents are on my neck while some of my friends make jest of me that my relationship is like going for a medicine school. I know he loves me but the job issue is the main problem and I don’t want to leave because of so many things he has done in the past for me, but I’m 26 years old now. Can I keep waiting for him? Because right now, he has no job. He says he is learning about tech but he doesn’t even have money to pay for the proper class.
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