I’m a 26-year-old woman who is in a relationship with a guy in his 30s. We have been dating for almost 2 years now, but the relationship seems boring, and he always wants me to live and do what he feels is right for us as a couple. Mind you, I was a social butterfly before we met, but after dating, he cut me off from my social lifestyle and my friends, claiming they were bad influences. We barely go out since he’s not social, so we are always indoors, but I want more. All he talks about is responsibility, and I’m tired of that. We fight and quarrel over little things all the time. To me, it’s like he is manipulating me, maybe because he feels he’s older than me. He always wants me to listen to him first and do what he wants as he claims he’s doing it for our good because he wants me to be a better woman for our future kids.
There is this cute guy I started talking to, and he is totally my type. Though we’ve been talking for 4 months and we finally went out just once on a date where he said he would like to be serious with me for a relationship. Though he doesn’t know I’m in a serious relationship where my guy and I stay together, and my guy monitors everything. So it’s not easy to chill much with the guy, for real. He is really my kind of man. He’s cute, outspoken, and very social. I have found interest in him even though nothing has happened between us. To be honest, I really want him and also want to date him, but I also love my guy since we have been together through rough times and have supported each other with our time and finances, and both our parents know we were planning on getting married.
I don’t know what to do as I’m scared if I continue with my guy and it leads to marriage, I will cheat on him or get tired and fall out of love since he doesn’t socialize and I love to. I’m thinking of the other guy almost every time, wishing my guy was the guy. I feel like breaking up with my guy for this guy because I love his vibe (a good guy with a spice of a bad boy appearance). Please advise me on what to do as I have invested too much in my current relationship. Every time I tried to talk to my guy about this boring life, he feels I just want to live the worldly life (bad girl life) and not be spiritual with God. But I really want more than a boring and dry relationship with no memories together and I also want God too.
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