I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now, and he cares for me a lot and he is really kind towards me. We’ve been there for each other, although I met him while I was in school. He’s my first, and I love him so much. But the issue is I have a high sex drive, and he doesn’t meet up to it. We have sex once in 3 weeks, and I’m beginning to lose my cool. I’ve tried talking about it with him, and we agreed to spice up our sex life, but still, no changes. How can I be with my man, and he hardly initiates sex or makes me feel like he’s attracted to me sexually? It’s making me lose my self-confidence because I now feel unattractive.
When we eventually have sex, he’ll just wash up and start pressing his phone or playing video games—no cuddles, or at least compliments. At least something to keep you in the moment. Imagine me always rehearsing how to ask my man for sex because I’m scared he might not want it. I even suspected he was seeing someone, maybe that’s why. But then I checked his phone and didn’t see anything tangible. It’s really draining and frustrating. We basically live like siblings, except for the random kisses he gives me every now and then.
Now the problem is I don’t think I can keep up or even want to end up with someone like him because I don’t feel loved sexually. I always think of cheating, although I’m fighting it seriously, but I don’t think I can anymore. Or maybe I should just break up with him instead of cheating while still in a relationship. I feel like one part of me is missing, and I never imagined my sex life like this before I lost my virginity to him. I had already pictured my sex life to be incredible. Please, what do I do?
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