After my 3 years relationship ended, my ex said I won’t find anyone that would love me like he did. This was in my head for a whole year. I tried dating someone else; he wasn’t serious. I was more in love with him and he toyed with my emotions and made me think, “What if what my ex said was true?” I left him and finally I found someone, and we talked for two months and dated for a month before I traveled to see him for the first time. I visited him and I felt so comfortable with him. I felt like we had known each other longer than three months, and I stayed for 3 weeks without him acting funny. He treated me so nice and really took care of me and made sure I was happy. The only challenge I have now is—he is a Muslim, I’m a Christian—which is something I don’t know if my family will permit me to marry. He is Yoruba and I’m Igbo. He is cool with it because his mom’s a Christian and dad’s a Muslim. One day I said, “Marriage is scary, for real. I don’t even know how I’m going to get married with things happening in marriages these days.”
He said, left to him, he won’t even want to get married. That can’t we just enjoy our life? That if he wants to marry, he has to bring this one, buy that one, buy cow and come and do traditional marriage. That all those stuff are stressful. I told him immediately, “I said I’m scared of marriage; I didn’t say I don’t want to be married.” I forget what happened next, but we didn’t continue the conversation again. After the conversation, we then started communicating like we are planning the future together. Like he jokingly said he is about to give me a ring soon, saying, “You are my wife.” For me, I don’t get moved by words, so I’m still concerned about what he said then. I’m not saying I want him to marry me now—we are not ready yet—but for me, I date to marry. And I don’t know if I need to clarify these issues and let him make me know my stand. I love him and I know he does too, because he is always there for me and wants me happy. We don’t go through each other’s phones. I really wanted to know the password during my stay there, but it was so difficult.
He keeps his phone to himself, even though he calls it “my office.” He is too good to be true—or he played his game too well. I don’t know if they have young, rich, hot guys that can have only one girlfriend in Lagos, because he acted so nice for 3 weeks. Is it too early to ask the question again? He is the first son and has a lot of responsibilities. How can I ask him in a way he will not feel like I’m acting desperate? Because I’m not. About the Muslim and Christian part, what do you advise me to do? I’m going to be 25 this year. Please, I need advice. Thanks.
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