So I’ve been meaning to share this. My mom is a single mother of 3. There’s this man my mom met at work when she was still working. The man, since I’ve known him, has been a very good person, like sometimes I forget we are not related in any way. Since I’ve been in university he has been the one paying my allowance. He even paid my school fees once. He gives my mom allowance too every month. Even when she was still working and when she stopped working, he put it upon himself to always support us. And this is someone that his family too depends on him (he is not married). In all, the man is a very good person and I pray that God continues to bless him. So where I’m going is: I’ve been noticing the way my mom acts like his money is her money despite the fact that he still gives her money every month. Whenever she needs money she still calls and if he says he doesn’t have, she gets angry. She feels so entitled to his money and it is annoying to me, not to talk of him. Sometimes he sends her to market to get stuff for him, she will still add money to the original price, and the money she adds is not N1k or N2k, she can add like N10k.
My mom cooks for him every month and it’s not like she is buying anything with her money, he still says she should cook for him and us too. Despite everything, she still acts this way. Now she told him to buy TV for us because the one we had spoilt and he said instead of that, he will use it to pay my school fees. She said no, that he should pay my school fees and house rent and still buy TV for us. Like for someone that goes to work in the morning and comes back at night, he will now pack all the money for us? Whenever he sends her to buy anything and he doesn’t give her the money immediately, she will start asking him for the money and when he doesn’t answer she gets angry. She is just at the receiving end, nothing to give back in return. He even did birthday, she only got him boxers like 3 and if she was the one he does more than that. I know things are not easy but is she supposed to act like this to someone who has always been of help to us? Now he is complaining because it is getting too obvious and too much. And this entitlement thing is not just to him. Anyone that helps her once has entered it. Even my stuff too.
Now I got power bank because of school and I used my feeding money to buy it. She said I should borrow her. Now it has turned to her own, she doesn’t let me use it. And if you don’t give her, she will start blackmailing us, especially me, that I’m not a good daughter. I’m not pitying her. I’m not saying if I have I won’t give her but it is annoying. I just used to think maybe it is because we don’t have money but should it be like this? Help me. I’m not a w!cked daughter. I pray to God everyday to bless her and me too so I will be able to take care of her but sometimes I think that if I have money she will not want it to be that all the money I make I should pack everything and give her since she has been taking care of me because she shows signs like that. I’m not saying I will not take care of her, God forbid anything that will say I should not take care of her, but sometimes it is just annoying and she likes to take control of your things, especially your money. If she helps you once, by the time she needs your help, she expects you to help her back and not just once, keep helping. It is just paining me because I cannot tell her.
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