Guys, how do you make someone learn how to say NO, please? Because this is becoming very annoying. We’d be struggling; I’d forego some things I need just so we can save money for a necessity, only for one person to come and tell my man a sob story, and then he’d carry money that we don’t have and send it. Funny thing is, after this, he’ll still come to me and say he has messed up. I’m soooo upset right now and not talking to him. This has been happening for years—his friends just take advantage of him, yet he still hasn’t learned. Because of this, we agreed he wouldn’t be holding onto money anymore. So, once money comes in, he sends it to me, plus we’re saving to rent an apartment. After almost two years of being broke, during which time his friends all distanced themselves, I was the only one he had/has, plus a couple of God-sent people. Well, yesterday, this man got paid. The amount isn’t too big, but okay.
He sent the money to my savings and kept just N200k for upkeep, keeping N100k and giving me N100k. I’d also send some to my mom from the N100k too. Today, this man started asking me about an iPhone SE, saying his friend wants to sell it to him for N100k. I was like, why? We both use very good phones. Oga said the guy needs money for food for his wife and kid—that there’s nothing at home. I was utterly shocked because, haven’t you learned? This is the same guy that, when we needed money to clear my rent in school two years ago and my man wanted to sell him his bed, he kept whining him. P.S.: I lent my actual rent money to him, hoping he’d give it back before it was due. The funny part is, this guy doesn’t even talk to him like that, but because he knows my man got some money yesterday (he was the one who helped him collect it), now his wife and kid have nothing to eat? This guy flexes life, enjoys… to think that my man offered to give me part of this N100k to do my hair,
but I told him to hold on to it—that I can make do with my wigs—and now this… I think I won’t even be putting him in charge anymore; I’ll just be collecting it instead of letting people continue taking advantage of him. And it’s not even like they’d do the same for him when he’s down; it’s still me he comes to, and I still help. Anyways, I told him not to buy the phone because, one, he has something he wants to do with that money, which was why I refused when he wanted to give me money for my hair. Two, these people don’t care about him! Three, We don’t need the phone; we use wayyy better ones. Plus, I told him he could send the guy just a small amount if he doesn’t want to be seen as a bad person. I’m sha not talking to him right now because he still wants to do the deal, and we don’t even know if the phone is in good condition. I’m sorry my rant is too long, but I’m pained, tbh, and I just needed to rant!!!
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