Please y’all should advise me. I’m 26 and I just got married last year and I have a kid. I was born and brought up in Lagos, but my husband’s family stays in Osun. We met when we were in school at Osun. Along the line, we got married and moved to Lagos to settle last year. So not even up to a year, all his siblings come to stay for weeks. Some came for a month just for visitation. They will refuse to leave unless we stylishly ask them to go, and I hate being uncomfortable. I’m not really comfortable around them because they are my in-laws. I’m always being careful to avoid side talks about me. So I spoke to him about it and he did listen to me. So few weeks back, he travelled to Osun and brought his friend without informing me. I was angry, but he lied he came for something and he’s not staying long. That one is here and refuses to leave. I can’t wear anything I like at home. I don’t breastfeed my son the way I’m supposed to because he’s there with us in the sitting room. Sometimes I cover my son with my hijab or cloth to breastfeed him, and it’s inconveniencing my son. Sometimes I go inside the bedroom to do that, even when I’m watching a movie after coming back from work. And I’m not comfortable with that.
I go to the bedroom to sleep when I’m not even ready to sleep because he’s there. I can’t watch the movie that I want because he takes the remote like he owns the house. He puts mouth in what does not concern him. Everything we talk about, he’s always talking too when he’s not even supposed to. He acts like he knows everything, always trying to control. He travelled for Odun (Eid) but coming back again after Odun. I spoke to my husband about that too, but he’s trying to make it look as if I’m doing too much. I don’t just feel comfortable when it’s not just us alone. I have never brought anybody from my side here. My mum only came to visit when I was sick and brought something for me and also to know where I stay, and left that same day. Because I don’t have privacy, please what can I do? I don’t really like people being around us because they mostly use to cause rift between I and my husband, so I avoid that a lot. And my husband doesn’t seem to understand me whenever I try to tell him that’s the reason. It’s making me feel like I’m a bad person the way I nag all the time not to bring people here and allow us at least enjoy our matrimonial home in peace.
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