I am 27 years old; my husband is 26. Married and a mother of 3, all female. Flashback to the last 2 and a half years, my husband was acting weird for 2 months, so I challenged him. I mean, he started avoiding me as if he was scared or something. So after pressuring him, he opened up. Turns out, he got a girl pregnant, and it happened to be a girl from a strict home, so the case was kind of big. When he explained how everything happened and gave silly excuses for the cheating and stuff, he begged and begged until I forgave him. When the girl’s parents found out my husband was married and he couldn’t marry their daughter, they concluded that he would take all the responsibility for the kid, which I was fine with, in as much as there is no connection between my husband and the girl. Fast forward, the girl eventually delivered, and it was a boy. All of a sudden, my husband changed. I feel like he started caring more for the new child than mine. More clothes, more gifts.
I mean, to be honest, I get all I need for my kids from him, but the way I see this, he values the child more than my 3 children. So all of a sudden, last year, he told me the boy would be coming to stay with us for one day each week. At first, I was not so cool with this (he is 1 year+), because I feel like her mother will be the one bringing him to our house. While I was busy thinking about this case, he bribed me with a new car and finished my spa shop, so I couldn’t resist. So after he started coming, this affection between him and his son was crazy to me. The bonding is too much. I talked to my mother about this, and her response was, “Men act that way when they just welcome a boy,” that I should rest, he loves them all. But deep down, I feel like my children are not loved the way this boy is loved. He didn’t change toward me and is still gifting me and has stopped cheating ever since then. In fact, I will say that case is one of the reasons my husband still respects me to date. But my children are my concern. I need advice. I don’t want to give my daughters an unloving father. What should I do?
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