Please, I have an issue bothering me, and it’s really messing with my mental health. I am 28, and my husband is 30. I have been married to my husband for over 3 years now, and we have a daughter. Before God and man, my husband takes very good care of us, and we don’t lack anything. I used to work, but I resigned because I didn’t have enough time for the family, so recently hubby gave me some amount of money to look around for a shop, and then afterward, he’ll give me money to stock it so I can start up something (I have contacted an agent but I haven’t gotten what I like, so we’re still on that. The issue now is that my husband is a cheat, and he does it with no traces except I check his phone before I find out. He used to hook up with girls and pay them off before. I have never contracted any disease, so he probably used c0nd0ms. So recently, he has been talking to a girl in particular, and I complained about it, which he’ll gaslight and manipulate things to make it look like I am the problem.
I read their conversation where he was telling the girl that he is single and he stays alone but doesn’t spend much time in the house. He changed his phone password when he knew I was checking his phone, but I can tell when the girl texts him on WhatsApp through her dp. He goes into the car to make calls at times, and if I talk, he’ll tag me as a nagging wife. The girl called him at midnight yesterday, and I picked up the call, but he collected the phone from me and ended the call, but I’m sure the girl heard my voice. I’m not happy at all; this issue is giving me sleepless nights and a loss of appetite. I’m a beautiful size 8 woman; I take care of myself and my home. He doesn’t look like someone who wants to change. I’ve talked to him severally, and his response will be I should stay in my lane because almost all men explore. It hurts me so much. I don’t have much savings; I would have left the marriage (we’re legally and traditionally married). I need advice and people to talk to; I don’t have friends.