It’s been 4 years since I married my husband and it’s been hell for us financially. After we got married, he lost his job. I was working in another state but because of pregnancy and wedding, I couldn’t continue with the job and we moved to another state. His brothers have been helping us financially, bought him videography equipment worth millions but he didn’t learn it. They set up a farm business for him worth millions, but they stole all his animals. They gave him money to start a drinks business, but he didn’t even buy a bottle of drink. Me on the other hand was nursing a baby and the work I’m seeing is like N20k salary or N30k salary, and after removing tfare from it, I’m left with nothing. His brothers give him money and this guy won’t even give me N2k out of it, knowing fully well that there’s nothing I’m doing to make money, and his brothers keep doing anything he wants because they are well-to-do. They told us to travel but he was against it and spent the money for passport. For the fact that there’s no way or how I’m seeing money, I’m just living a miserable life. I can’t afford anything for myself.
We moved to another state recently but before moving, I was managing a place for someone who paid me N15k monthly, that’s close to our house. But imagine working 8am to 8pm with a toddler for N15k. After relocating, I found out I was pregnant with our second child. Whenever my father-in-law calls me, he’s always abu$ing me for being jobless and all, so I stopped every communication with his family, especially his mum telling everybody how lazy I am — that ever since we relocated, I just sat down doing nothing at home. Like which work will I do with pregnancy? Me that I wanted to die in my first trimester. While your own son, that you keep wasting millions on, is actually sitting at home doing nothing. Sometimes, 2 weeks — no food — na garri I go dey drink with pregnancy o. His brothers told him to get a shop. For the past 6 months now, this man never see shop. All he does is smoke all day and all night, while at the end of the month, his brother actually pays him. Yes, they give him monthly allowance but the money isn’t even enough. Imagine a jobless man using a phone of 1 million or staying in a house of 1 million plus, and we can’t even eat 3 square meals.
As mother-in-law dey attack me that I’m lazy and don’t want to work, na so father-in-law is telling me that I don’t call him. I should call you so that you’ll start insulting me again and blaming me for your son’s misfortune? Imagine him saying he knows families where the wife is the breadwinner. Lol, you’re wasting millions on your son that has nothing to show for it, yet I haven’t received N50k from his family ever since we got married. So how will I be the breadwinner? We went for his mum’s birthday yesterday and this woman keeps saying I’m lazy, I’m this, I’m that. Father-in-law self is saying that I don’t call him. If I don’t change, he’ll stop talking to me. Like who cares na? I just want to avoid his family totally and we are even close to each other. Note: his parents are not together. Honestly, I need a job. I need to get my life together. I’m just tired and I’m heavily pregnant. I can’t afford anything for myself. I have wasted money on affiliate marketing, all these online stuffs, sporty bet — just to gather money to start a business for myself. The thoughts of committing su***de keep ringing in my head. I am tired, honestly. I don’t like the way I’m living. Please advise me.
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