I appreciate what you do here. Please, I have an issue that has been bothering me for a while. I’d like for you to share my story because I’m almost losing my mind. My marriage is 4 years old this year, and I have been in constant battle with myself. I met my husband as a Catholic, and we also wedded in a Catholic church. We attended church together during the one-year period we dated, and part of the reason I accepted to marry him was because he was God-fearing—or so I thought. All of a sudden, I started noticing some strange behaviors from him. He stopped going to church, and when I asked,
he said he’s decided that he wants to practice traditional religion (this was without any prior discussion with me). He has a particular native place he goes for their worship, and some of their rules include: you don’t eat eggs (he doesn’t allow me to cook eggs anymore, even for our child), sometimes you don’t sleep with your wife, and you don’t go to some public places. This has affected my marriage in ways that break my heart. I don’t get enough sexual satisfaction from him. We can’t go out freely, especially during special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. He spends really good money there, yet when I ask him for money, he says he doesn’t have any.
I work and buy things for the house, even for our son, and take care of myself to cover for him. His attitude toward me breaks my heart. He has refused to let us get any house help, so I do all the chores alone and still care for our son (he’s 16 months old). I have severe back pain from all the stress, yet he doesn’t care. I’m honestly worn out, mentally exhausted, and I see no reason to continue. No sex, no money, no support, no attention, no companionship. My family doesn’t want me to leave the marriage, saying there’s no better man out there, but I just cannot continue because I’m not happy.
I keep thinking about what the future holds for my son if I continue with his father, considering his lifestyle and beliefs. I fear for parental curses upon his life, and it’s scary. I have tried to talk to him and pray for him, yet nothing has changed. He’s rather proud about it and shouts at me each time I bring it up. Him and his friends even mock God in my presence when they talk, saying things like they’re happy they’ve “seen the light.” It leaves me dumbfounded and weakens my spirit. I left last Christmas because he abandoned me and our sick child on Christmas Day to go there, and I got angry, packed my bags, and left.
He came begging with his people, saying he would change, and my mom asked that I go back. Yet I still see no changes until now. Our beliefs are now totally different, and it’s making me resent him. The worst part is that his family is fully aware, and they’re all in it together, so they now see me as the enemy. People are beginning to pressure me to get pregnant again without knowing what I’m going through. I honestly don’t know where to go from here. Should I leave and move on with my life? Is this a good enough reason to leave a marriage? Please advise me, because I’m literally going crazy, and I’m hardly happy these days.
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