My Girlfriend Is Trying to Japa

I have been dating this girl for 2 years now. She’s a nurse, and I really love her. Last year, I wanted to settle down with her, and I noticed that during the course of our relationship, she never said anything regarding our future together. Each time I bring up marriage talks, she doesn’t seem to show interest in such conversations. So, I confronted her, and she told me she wanted to focus on getting employed in the UK as a Registered Nurse before settling down. This really didn’t sit well with me because I wanted us to get married. Secondly, I made it known to her that I do not want to base myself in the UK, as I already have a business here, and I don’t like the idea of us staying in different locations. I promised to open a standard pharmacy for her if she stayed back in Nigeria, but her mind is made up to “Japa.” Last year passed, and I was still in a relationship with her, not knowing my next move. Fast forward to this year, I brought up the marriage talk again, but she still insists on traveling to the UK.

This time, she asked me to pay for her self-sponsorship to travel to the UK since she hasn’t received any offers yet from employment agencies there. I suggested we get married first, and then we can plan for her UK trip, but she declined. Her reasons are that she doesn’t want to waste more time in Nigeria due to the restrictions on Nigerian nurses that will take effect this year. At this point, I can’t raise the money for her UK travel due to the urgency of the matter and, of course, the rising exchange rate. Another reason is that I’ll have to wait for more than 1 or 2 years before we can get married, as I don’t see the possibility of her coming back in a matter of months once she gets to the UK. I don’t have 2 more years to wait for her after waiting last year in vain. She has told me to do what’s best for me, and that we can go our separate ways since our goals are not aligned. I tried leaving her, but I got guilt-tripped by her, saying I left her when she needed me most. Right now, I feel pressured. I really need your candid advice.

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