So basically, there’s this girl I know. We met through Facebook and had been friends for a long time before we started dating. She lives in Port Harcourt while I’m in Ibadan, and our relationship has been 3 years now. Here’s what happened in a nutshell: she traveled all the way to Ibadan just to see me and ended up staying with me here. Then I found out she had sex with some guys before. I checked her phone and discovered it, but we talked about it, and I forgave her. Things were good afterward. Fast forward to 2022, I got a new apartment, and she moved in with me, so we were living together. Then I cheated on her, and she found out.
Around the same time, when I moved into my apartment, my mom and dad came over and claimed that she used “jazz” on me. I was furious, so I asked her to leave. I went out and did my investigation, only to find out it was all lies. I was so mad that I got into it with my parents and even stopped talking to them for a while because of this. Anyway, we reconciled, and things were fine until the federal SARS came down and raided my house. That day was anything but funny. To cut the long story short, I got broke, and we stayed together. This girl was there when I had nothing. Then I noticed she started talking to a guy on IG; he sent her money, and I asked her where she got the money since she doesn’t work.
She said it was from a guy on IG who was crushing on her. I told her I didn’t like that, and she promised to stop talking to him. After a while, my rent expired, and I couldn’t pay on time, so I moved to a smaller apartment, and she stayed with her friends. Those days were hard—I had no money but still sent her the little I had. We fought again in 2023. She said I was a cheat, that I was with different girls, and I hurt her feelings. I begged her, but she said she couldn’t keep doing this. Meanwhile, she had been going to hotels and doing all sorts of things, but I wasn’t aware because I was trying to get my life together.
Last September, during my friend’s birthday, we met up, talked about our issues, and made plans. I set her up, paid for her nails, got a new apartment, and was trying to set up the nail business for her, but she’s been acting strangely since then. On Monday, I went to my girlfriend’s place, and she told me she was going to her sister’s. She went out to get something, and I started searching her room, where I found a chain. This chain was given to her by her ex before she came down here. When we started dating, I bought her a new chain and asked her to get rid of it. She said she would but didn’t. I found the chain again and was mad, but I calmed down.
I love her so much that I’m scared to lose her. I asked her about the chain, and she said she doesn’t even talk to the guy anymore. When I asked to check her phone, she refused, and we struggled until I got it. Then I found out she was planning to meet the guy who had been sending her money. She had told me that morning that she was going to her sister’s place. I’m in shock and don’t know what to do. Yes, I cheated, and she’s blaming everything on that and on my family’s actions. I’m drained right now and need advice.
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