I’m a 23-year-old guy, very nice and supportive, and I’m a 200 level student. I would say I have been doing most things for myself. I don’t really expect anything from my parents. I just like to do things for myself since I have the money, but for the past few months now, things haven’t been going well. It’s hard to feed, but people would never believe if I told them my situation. Now, the problem is that I have a girlfriend and she has been very supportive too—she has been there for me. But recently, I told her that “babe, I think it’s time for you to go back to your hostel so you can save money for yourself from the money your parents are sending you in case you want to buy clothes or do anything for yourself.” Because the more you stay here with me, you won’t have any savings. And we both agreed. I said I will always figure myself out. But yesterday we both were hungry and I remembered she still had N5k. I told her to cook rice and she said her sister borrowed the money from her, but deep down I know it’s a lie. I said okay, no problem. We both slept like that.
She told me in the afternoon she wants to start buying clothes and will be making the payment small small till it’s complete. Then I came back to my senses that she already sent the money out to buy the clothes. But I wasn’t so sure until this morning—she gave me her phone to help her text someone because she was busy with something else. Then I entered her archive chat and saw that she already sent out the money. I also saw one guy’s chat saying, “I want you, date me,” bla bla bla. Since then, I have been so mad because I feel like she doesn’t have to lie to me because I already told her to save up for herself. And secondly, about the guy that’s texting her—we both agreed that if any guy texts her, she should tell me about it, and if any girl tries to seduce me, I will tell her and we will make jest of her. Though she has never cheated on me because we are always together except when she goes home to visit her parents, and we are always on video call. Now, I’ve already made up my mind to always return the energy back to her, keep secrets to myself, and fornicate.
The first time I saw her chatting with a guy, she locked the chat in WhatsApp, but I searched her phone and checked her locked chat. She was telling the guy that she’s not interested, that she can’t cheat on her boyfriend. My question now, sir/ma, is am I overreacting for getting mad because she lied? Or should I just go on with my decision and start telling her lies too and fornicating till we both are tired and quit the relationship? And why I said she can’t cheat on me is that I came from a traditional background and there was a day I was appeasing my Ifa. She said she wanted to join me to do some stuff, and since then, they have made it clear to her that another man mustn’t claim her—that if she does, her life would be so reckless.
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