I’m a 28-year-old woman. Please, I need your advice. Since I was growing up, I had this issue with my hand, especially my right index finger. It’s swollen; it’s as big as a toe. It’s like having a toe as your finger, and the worst part of it is that it’s affecting the other fingers; they’ve gradually begun to grow bigger too. I went to see the doctor, and they said the problem is coming from my nerve, and I was operated on, and they made it worse. Now my wrist is swollen too due to bad surgery. Rantz family, this thing has given me low self-esteem; I’m always hiding my hand in public. I’m an orphan; my mum who was helping me fight the problem d!ed last year. Ever since then, it’s been sadness; I can’t have a genuine relationship. I met a guy online last year. I told him about my problem while we were still talking on the phone; I told him before we saw each other.
He said nothing can stop him from loving me, not even a disfigured face lol. When we finally saw each other, the first thing he did was look at my hand; when he saw it, he couldn’t even touch it. The heartbreaking statement he made was, ‘How can this thing happen to a fine woman like you?’ I smiled in pain. Do you know that after the date, this guy stopped talking to me? When I asked him, he said he did not want to date me out of pity. I’m crying while writing this story. I can’t wait for God to bless me so that I can work on my hand in a good hospital and have my esteem back. One man even told me back then in school that it will be hard for me to find a husband because of my hand, chai! I told him he’s not God! And years later, it’s looking like it. I’ve lost so much because of it; the worst part is that it’s affecting the other fingers! Advise me, please, how can I live with this pain until I have enough funds to work on it? I’m falling into depression already. I’m tired!