So I have this female friend who has become very much like a best friend over the years. One time, I stayed a night over at her place, and we started hooking up. Since then, I’ve not been comfortable because she has a boyfriend. I clearly don’t like the idea of her cheating, and I don’t want her to lose her man over me because I’m not available for a relationship, not even the sex, as long as it’s with her. I appreciate her, though. I’d do anything for her, but not those specific things—no! Anytime I visit her, even if it’s just a friendly visit, I see myself rushing out. The last time we had drinks, sex came up again, and she started saying, “I love you” again, which I clearly didn’t want.
And now she says it at the end of calls, so unexpectedly. I’ve stopped calling her. I don’t want to see her anytime soon, but I know as long as we exist, she will continue this. Please advise me. I don’t want to lose her, but I want our relationship defined. What can I do? She’s a mad person. When I try to talk, she will develop another story or understanding like most women do. I am not in a relationship because I’ve been through a lot, and I feel a relationship isn’t a good fit for me right now. She knows this well, but I don’t know why she won’t let things be.
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