I dated my first love for three years and seven months, and it was hell. Quick message for my ladies: please, don’t expose your relationship to the extent that you won’t be able to end it when your mental health is at stake. He is so full of himself. He gaslights me a lot, he’s a man!pulator, and a sex addict too. Lol, I know some guys will come for me, but hear me out first, my gees. We fought four to five times a month. I mean serious misunderstandings that didn’t even make any sense. Sometimes we wouldn’t talk for weeks, sometimes months. I apologized most of the time, but I got tired at some point. I thought it was because I was in school since he’s very insecure. We could be on a call for hours, sometimes I’d fall asleep on the call, but even after I finished my ND, nothing changed. I loved him so much that I did whatever he wanted me to do. I’m a full-time lover girl, soft-hearted, and scared of people, so I was taken for granted in my past relationship.
I don’t have friends because he didn’t want to see me with any. 😪 He did assist me because I don’t like asking for money. I mean, my mum isn’t broke, and I have five older step-siblings who are doing fine. Sometimes, he sent money without me asking. But the real issue is that: He smokes, he refused to go to school — I mean, he doesn’t even have a WAEC certificate, he is a narcissist, and he doesn’t want to start any business apart from this fraud thing (yahoo). He finished building his house after a lot of pressure from me and his mum. Yeah, I know I saw those red flags before dating him, but I personally thought I would be able to change him, which I tried. He stopped smoking at some point, but it got worse after he got his first car. Mmmmmm… Last year, November, I caught him cheating on me red-handed. He knelt down immediately and begged, with some excuse that he wanted to use the girl to satisfy his konji. I didn’t say anything; I just accepted my fate.
The second time he cheated was publicly 😭. I mean, he went to a club, and his friends were videoing him while he kissed a lady. He apologized for weeks because I was so pissed about everything. I had my reasons for being pissed — I was treating infections (STDs) back to back, and he was aware of everything. I accepted my fate and forgave him. At this point, my mental health was at stake. To cut the long story short, I broke up with him because he became so disgu$ting and irrit^ting to me. I’ve been single since then, but trust me, I’m happy 🫢. I thought I wouldn’t be able to live without him, but here I am, living fine and curing my konji with my fingers until I get my toys 😭 because I don’t want to be in any relationship for now. This generation isn’t smiling at all, and I sincerely hate this generation so much 😪. I just hope I find my own man. Thank you so much for reading my story, and God bless you.
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