I dated this single dad for 8 months before I broke up with him and it wasn’t a smooth relationship, there were so many ups and downs. When we first met, he told me he was a single dad and his child’s mother broke up with him because she didn’t want to get married. He told me a lot of things about her; how he hates her, how she irritates him, whenever she comes home to bring his child home, he doesn’t look at her face, and sometimes he sends someone to go get his son from her and they both stopped their small joint business, so she took over it. It was a long-distance relationship and he lives in the same location as his child’s mom while I’m very very far from his location. He always asked me for money and I gave him whenever he asked. He doesn’t give me money, he only gave me N4k once because he was broke at the moment but he kept on asking all the time and I told him I had bigger problems for which I didn’t have any support from anyone. I do things myself with my little business. He doesn’t care about my problems but he wants me to give him money to solve his problems and leave mine.
I stopped giving him money and focused on myself but I gave him once in a while and he pleaded with me very well before I gave him. One day, he posted his child’s mom on his status with love emojis, I confronted him and he told me the baby mama took his phone from his son and posted it. I complained and asked him to delete it but he refused to, which led us to quarrel for 3 months. After much pleading for about 3 weeks, we settled. He kept on asking me for money again because he was sick but I refused to give him. My younger sis was sick then, so I paid for her treatment and left him. I was so broke then that I wasn’t feeding well. The next day, he posted their joint business. I confronted him, and I told him I was not happy with it because it showed that they both had something to do with each other. He has never posted my business, even when I used to give him big money, I spent more than my savings on him and got into debt, which I settled. Whenever his child’s mom goes to his house to drop off their children, she dresses almost naked.
There was a time when both of them spent a night together because he was sick. I told him I didn’t want to involve myself in their drama, and I had the feeling that they were still together and one day he might leave me and get married to her behind my back or have another child together. I love his son so much, and I pay some of his bills, and he calls me mom. He is almost 2 years old now, and I miss him so much because we communicate all the time whenever he is with his dad. I broke up with him, and we blocked each other everywhere, so please be careful with single dads who are not mature.
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