I actually did a terrible thing! That I’m really so ashamed of myself! That I think might be able to end my relationship. Before I got into my relationship, I used to have a situationship, which I ended in early 2022, and me and the person totally became friends. Sometimes we just hang out as normal friends. He later got a girlfriend at the end of 2022, and then sometimes we barely talk. It might be up to 6 months before we talk or even hang out. When I mean hang out, he doesn’t even stay in Lagos, so anytime he’s around, we just go out and eat, and then he goes back to his house, and then I go back to mine. Nothing really happens between the two of us. That was before I got into my relationship, and then he was already in his own relationship, but I was single. We barely even talk to each other. Sometimes I even forget he exists, to be honest. And then I later got into a new relationship at the end of 2023, and it was going on smoothly.
It was actually a long-distance relationship; I can’t completely call it long-distance because we go to the same school, but we’re not in the same state. We don’t stay in the same state. So most times we only get to see each other physically only in school because he barely comes to my state, and I barely come to his too. The relationship is actually serious, though, because there’s nothing that goes on in my life that I won’t tell him. I never lie to him because I’m so obsessed with him. I literally tell him anything that goes on in my life, even if I’m about to enter the toilet or I’m about to eat, or even if I crossed paths with my ex, I will let him know. So just this week, the boy I used to have a situationship with texted me. I told him about the boy too, but he doesn’t know him; he just knows there was someone that used to be in my life like that. So I told him I was going out with a boy, and funny enough, it wasn’t just only me; it was me and my female friend and the boy because I felt like he should know.
I just wanted him to know I was going out because that’s what I always do. At first, he was mad at me, saying we had made plans already, and why am I telling him now? And then he said I could go. And then I got busy the next day, so I couldn’t go out with the boy and my female friend, and I told them maybe next time I would go out with them. So the next day, I told them I was less busy, and we could hang out, and my female friend said she couldn’t go out because she had traveled and might not be back anytime soon. So I couldn’t go out with him alone anymore because I really wanted to respect my man. And that was the end of that. Still the same this week, we were having a conversation, and I told him the boy I was going to meet was the one I used to be in a situationship with, and then he reacted, which is totally normal because he’s probably thinking now that I’m cheating on him, which I swear on my life, I have never. For the past 6 to 7 months that we’ve been dating,
I’ve never flirted or even made love with any man besides him. It might sound weird to him and hard to believe because we stay in two different places. Now he’s not talking to me, and I’m going crazy because so many thoughts might be going through his head, coupled with the fact that he’s been broke for some time and he thinks I’m just lying when I say I love him and I might be cheating on him in Lagos, which isn’t true. I really wanted him to know everything about me so nothing came as a shock to him. He is actually heartbroken because he thinks I might still be interested in that boy. After all, I had something to do with him in the past. And I swear to God who made me, I don’t have anything to do with him now. Me and that boy have never even dated before. We were more of friends with benefits kind of thing, which has even ended years ago. But I totally understand my boyfriend getting mad at me and not talking to me. But honestly, I really don’t want to lose him, but his silence is really killing me. Please help! I need help!
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