My so-called boyfriend lied to me. I met him last year, and we started talking every time. We began dating, and he told me he had only two significant exes, and they don’t matter anymore. However, he still talks to one – a successful lawyer. Despite him claiming they broke up amicably, I noticed he frequently calls her, explaining it’s related to his land and export business. He often talks about her, but I wasn’t initially bothered since she lives in Abuja, and we’re in Lagos. He supports me financially without me asking. Last week, I checked his phone and read their chats, I was in shock. They still communicate, and my boyfriend is a mum for this girl. He initiated conversations, even when she responded coldly. I was able to read their chats from November, and he begged her to go on vacation for Christmas. She refused to, as she claimed they weren’t together. He sent her N500k and bone straight for Christmas. But he gave me N150k and no hair.
On Valentine’s Day, he traveled to Abuja, because she said she was lonely. I saw their videos; he bought flowers, Zara perfume, a Chanel bag, and more than 3 dresses. He told me he had to travel for business and sent me N100k on Valentine’s Day. Whenever she goes to court, she snaps herself in her lawyer uniform, and my boyfriend will tell her that if he doesn’t marry her, he will die single. She’s just 2 years older than me, and I feel like a fai|ure. She’s slim and pretty, but I’m okay too. My boyfriend doesn’t go out with me or let me meet his friends, but all his friends know the lawyer girl. I cried reading their chats, one time she complained about spending too much on Indrive and Bolt, and my boyfriend was asking her to just let them be serious with the relationship, so he could get her a car. I don’t know where to start from, I love this man so much, but I don’t know. Maybe with time, the girl will date someone else, and my boyfriend will focus on me and stop talking to her.