I was introduced to my now boyfriend by a family member, and when we had our first conversation, we asked several questions about ourselves and he told me his genotype was AS, and I’m AA. At first, I wasn’t really interested because I had plans, and they didn’t really involve marriage this year. He was all about the marriage talk and it showed how serious he was. Also, the person that introduced him to me said that he was serious about marriage and that he was a good guy too, so I’ll say he came with a good recommendation. As we got talking frequently, I grew a soft spot for him. So he asked me out and I accepted, but I told him I wasn’t in a hurry to get married, that I’d like to know him to a good extent and also work on being financially independent first, which he supported. However, I visited him and we had a conversation that involved a sickle cell patient that I knew. That was when he told me he lied about his genotype, that he is actually SS. I was pissed that he lied about something like that, but at the same time, I don’t know why I was thinking about not hurting his feelings or trying to make him feel like being SS is a big deal. But it made me start rethinking moving forward with him or settling down with him because I really don’t know how to act when someone gets sick around me. Also, I don’t want to be visiting the hospital every now and then and be scared about my man’s life. The whole revelation and the fact that he has this unusually big stomach for his small body, which is a turn-off for me, is throwing me off balance. I don’t want to get married to someone I’ll resent, and I don’t know how to work through this because honestly, he is a really nice person and the first person I’ve dated that knew what he wanted without telling me “let’s see how it goes.” I’m in a bit of a pickle here. Help!
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