Before my boyfriend and I started dating, I asked if he had a girlfriend. He told me he didn’t have one. I pleaded with him to tell me the truth because I’m a very calm person and I hate drama, but he insisted he didn’t have a girlfriend. He told me there was an issue with his new apartment, that there was no light and water. I didn’t really put that in mind because we were still in the talking stage. Fast forward to when we started dating, we had gone on a date and I accepted to date him. After a few weeks, I found out he has a child and that he and his baby mama stay together. Mind you, we’ve been meeting in an apartment because he told me about his house earlier and even told me he was trying to get a refund from the house owner. I felt extremely bad. I couldn’t stop crying, but I couldn’t leave. We already had s€x, and I had just added to my body count. I always check his chats with his baby mama. They clearly don’t have anything to do together, but they live together because he doesn’t want her to go away with their child. They live like strangers in the house.
I could see that in their chats, but one thing is that there’s a limit to what he gives me. He ignores me when I ask for certain amounts, and he doesn’t give me more than N100k. I wasn’t bothered at first until I checked his conversations with his baby mama again and saw that he had been giving her money. I mean N500k for a wig, lots of money to support her business, and when she asks, she receives it immediately without stress. I don’t know how to explain how that feels. He’s always gaslighting me that I’m fighting him because of money whenever I talk about it. The money isn’t the issue. I only fight him because I can’t cope with the fact that there’s another woman in his life that he spends the kind of money he doesn’t spend on me on. They had issues and he stopped giving her money. I found an apartment for him and he stays alone now. He has changed, he gives me lots of money now, and the relationship is a lot better. But something happened recently. His baby mama wants to rent an apartment and she needs N3m. He told me he’s only giving her the money because of their son.
A few months ago, I pleaded with him to support my business and he promised to. Despite the fact that he has lots of money, over N200m, he was still finding it hard to give me the money. It took him three months to give me N1m. He gave me the N1m one day when I was crying about something, and he told me he would give me N700k later, that he planned on giving me N1.7m to support my business. So now that his baby mama came with the house rent bill and he wants to sort it out within one week, I told him that he must give me the N700k balance too because that’s one month after he gave me N1m. Why is he taking months to support my business but wants to give her N3m within a week? Please, am I asking for too much? It’s about to cause a breakup.
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