I’m confused on what to do. My boyfriend had this ex of his that he told me they both dated for 3 years, but they both fell out of love at the end because during those times, he was really broke and couldn’t afford to be in a relationship because he was scared to be hurt, so he decided to stay far away from the girl, but they both kept contact while he focused on himself. In 2023, we met, and during those times he was asking me out, he was still in contact with the girl. The same year, he hit some big amount of money, and our relationship got stronger. The other girl at the end, they didn’t see each other anymore, and I think she started a new relationship too. But the problem is after my boyfriend hit the money, he gave her 2 million naira and bought a new phone for her. He didn’t mention anything like that to me, but I read all the chat on his phone where they both came to the conclusion that they both fell apart and moved on. I read the chat on his phone and confronted him. He apologized to me that the girl was so good to him and stayed with him when he was down, when everybody else turned their back on him.
She stayed, gave him money from her little business, and always motivated him not to fall into depression. He said the money is just to compensate her since they can’t be together anymore, which I accepted. Me, on the other hand, he did more than that for me—opened a spa for me, bought all the equipment I need, plus always giving me any amount he feels like monthly, which I always appreciate. But the issue is this girl never leaves him. She’s always in his DM asking for relationship advice, business advice, family advice. If anything happens to her, my boyfriend is the first for her to contact. I don’t feel comfortable with her always talking to him, and I discussed it with my boyfriend. He said he will make amends. The last time I checked his phone, he told this girl that his girlfriend is angry and doesn’t want to keep the friendship with her anymore, that she should try and confide in her new boyfriend, and still apologized to her that he can’t be there for her anymore. She said okay, like she will never text him again. The following day, she found herself in his DM again, begging my man she can’t do without talking to him.
I don’t want to take her number and text her myself because that will be too low of me, because my boyfriend holds me in high regard in her DM, never for once disrespecting me, so doing that is bringing myself low. I don’t know what to do at this point; now he’s talking about engagement. I don’t feel good with her always coming to my boyfriend for everything. I know you are going to see this message; please stay away from my man and focus on yours.
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