I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 5-6 years, living together since our school days. He’s a kind person, but there’s no romance, intimacy, or excitement. We rarely have sex (once or twice a month), never go out, and don’t engage in new experiences. I’ve noticed a pattern: after sex, it takes weeks before we’re intimate again. This makes me anxious about initiating or accepting sex, fearing the long wait until the next meaningful connection. I’m left craving connection, feeling unseen and unheard. No birthday gifts, no surprises, no social media posts on my special days.
I’ve expressed my feelings, but he promises to change without keeping his promises. I’m torn between my desire for connection and the fear of encouraging this cycle. I’ve remained faithful, despite feeling unfulfilled. My family and his know each other; ending the relationship would affect them too. People might say I’ve invested too much time (6 years), but I wonder: if it’s this difficult now, how will marriage be? I love him and enjoy the closeness, but this cycle worries me.
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