Whenever I see people post about being in abusive relationships, and people comment they should leave, and I see things like “it’s not easy,” I always feel like slapping those people. Most of you are the cause of your damage, tbh. You’ll see red flags from the beginning, you’ll think it’s a carnival, abi!! Okay! Love has really blinded most of you, or I should just say you have really low self-esteem, which means you have no self-love, so you’ll have no choice but to stay in abusive relationships. You shouldn’t give anyone you’re in a relationship with more than 2 chances to hurt you! The first one can be a mistake. After the second one, nobody should tell you it will become a pattern, and you should leave. But no, you’ll stay there hoping they change till they ruin your mental health finish.
I’ve never been in an abusive relationship, but I always feel for people who are there because it’s very tough on mental health. I really wish I could be raising awareness of toxic and abusive relationships so people will know when to run. But I can’t, so I’ll just type it here. Please always google signs of love bombing, gaslighting, emotional blackmail, and other manipulative tactics. You’ll become familiar with them, so anytime someone pulls that card on you, you’ll know when to run. Also, let your self-respect be greater than your feelings. If you’re in a relationship with someone, and they start ignoring you and reducing conversations, please take your leave. It’s when victims want to leave that abusers start begging and acting right, pls don’t fall for the trap; they’ll never change! Ensure you block all means of communication from them so they won’t manipulate you.
Anyone in a toxic/abusive relationship who is finding it very difficult to leave knows that the first step is to be determined. Google tips to help you. Go out, eat. I understand abusive people make sure you cut off your friends so you may not have anybody to talk to, use social media more, and cut off contacts. If you can afford a therapist, please do. If you’re seeing signs and you’re still wondering if they’re abusive or it’s just mood swings, please google the little signs they’re showing. Most times, abusers are very sweet in the beginning and it’s when you’re enjoying their company they start showing the real them.
If you’re in an early relationship and they want to know where you are always, start telling you to go out less, reduce friends, reduce alone time, and have to always be with them, these are telltale signs, please run. Also, avoid being in a relationship with a man with many female friends, especially if they can’t set boundaries. They’ll tell you you’re insecure if you try to complain. Don’t ditch your friends for a relationship and don’t give up your social life. If you’re single, I pray you choose carefully, if you’re in a healthy relationship, I hope it never turns sour, and if you’re in an abusive relationship, I pray God gives you the strength to leave. Love and light.
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