There’s this guy I’ve been talking to for a while now. It’s been quite a long time, about six months. He is based in the UK, and I’m in Nigeria, so it’s like a kind of long-distance relationship. We’ve never met before. He’s 31, and I’m still 22. My online boyfriend has been very nice to me, and we’ve been getting along quite well. Around last month, he told me that he would be coming back to Nigeria this December. We’ve been getting along, and he is a kind of low-key person. We don’t post each other, not even on our birthdays. He sends me money even without asking, he does his best as a man. According to the conversations we had, he told me that he was ready for marriage, and he wanted to marry me. I observed that he was a serious guy, and he was not ready to play at all. So, I took him seriously, and I fell in love with him. But the only problem is, I am not ready for marriage. I’m currently in my final year in the Uni, and I don’t think I want to be a wife now.
At least, I want to graduate first and have my degree before I settle down with someone, even though he appears to be a serious guy. He even asked if we could get married last December, but I said not yet that I’m not ready. So, he told me he would be coming back in December, and he would like to meet my family members, and he wants me to meet his family also. I felt like it was a good idea. He was supposed to come in the first week of December, and according to the conversation we had, he didn’t mention me coming to the airport to pick him up or meet him at the airport. He just told me that when he’s back, he’s going to let me know, and he’ll send for me after. On the day of his arrival, he wasn’t active at all till after 24hrs. He texted me that he was busy and still not settled, and he had to see some of his businesses and projects he left behind first before we saw. I told him to let me know. Since he got back, our conversation reduced,
he no longer responds fast for someone who has been texting me back to back before. He just says hi, then goes off till maybe after 12hrs. He did that for about 4 days, then the ghosting began. I was worried, he wasn’t replying to my texts, but he was posting on Instagram stories flexing. I became angry but later calmed myself. He ghosted me for about 5 days, there was no way to reach him, so I had to contact the only person he introduced to me during one of our calls, his friend. His friend was like they’d not spoken for days because he had been out of town, but he’d call him to know what was up and feed me back. I just wanted to be sure he was fine and nothing bad happened. I didn’t get any feedback from his friend, the following day, my online boyfriend texted me, and he was like he was sorry for everything, that since he got back, he had been busy and the way his management mismanaged his finances had made him down.
I felt pity for him and at the same time felt he was lying, lol. He then asked me when I’d be able to travel to see him. My head keeps telling me he just wants to sleep with me and ghost me back because most of his conversations before he came back, have been s*xual, s*x chat, that he’s h*rny and how he was going to fuck me. Although we have other conversations too, guys I’m just confused. I don’t even have anyone I’m seeing here, and I don’t have friends too. I’m not the friendly type. Should I go and see him or not? I really love him, and he seems like a good man to me, but at the same time, I don’t want to be used. The memes about UK guys sef, maybe he was even with his main girlfriend and it just got to my turn. What do you guys think, should I go? I’ll be in the comments.
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