I’m in a dilemma and need to be sure I’m not about to make a huge mistake. I’m in my mid-30s and about to be married in less than 3 months. My dilemma is about my fiancée, who once told me she cannot clean a toilet she didn’t use. I thought she was joking but realized she wasn’t when she said she wouldn’t touch it even if I were sick and unable to clean it. I asked further; what if my aged mother visited and messed the toilet? She said she still wouldn’t touch it. I shared this with her mentor, who spoke with her, and she apologized, stating that’s not what she meant. Weeks later, she insisted the toilet and kitchen be refurbished before she moves in. I was worried because friends who lived with me never complained about the toilet. It’s not perfect but far from the worst. I live in a quality area, and my rent is in millions per annum. A female friend visiting once said she didn’t see what a woman was bringing to my place since I had everything needed in a home. Tonight, after a party, I went to the toilet, and she refused to come when I called her. I became weak inside. I’m worried. I’m scared. It’s not about the toilet; it’s about what’s going on in her head. Things are good for me, but what if a rough season comes? I need help seeing different perspectives. Perhaps I’m overthinking.
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