I’ve been dating my boyfriend for five years. He’s 29, and I’m 23. We moved to the UK together last year. He’s incredibly kind, loving, and takes great care of me both emotionally and financially. He always puts me first, and honestly, he’s close to perfect. The problem is, I don’t feel any s£xual attraction toward him. Our intimacy is disappointing—there’s no foreplay, and I don’t find him satisfying in bed. To be honest, when he’s not around, I don’t even miss him. I think he may have erectile dysfunction because, although he can get an erection initially, he struggles to maintain it beyond a minute or so, and then it takes him a long time to try again. This has been an issue since the beginning.
Recently, he’s started talking about marriage, and I find myself avoiding the topic because I can’t imagine a lifetime of unsatisfying intimacy. I’m worried that if we marry, I’ll feel unfulfilled and might be tempted to seek satisfaction elsewhere, which I don’t want to do. I overheard him talking to his friends about proposing to me soon, and I feel conflicted. I’ve talked to friends and family, but they all keep telling me that, with how wonderful he is otherwise, I shouldn’t even consider leaving him. I’ve discussed this with him as well, and he always says he’ll work on it, but there’s been no real improvement. I’m really unsure of what to do and need advice.
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