I met a guy, and we dated for a year and two months before getting married. While we dated, I was blinded by love and never saw his wrongs or his cheating habits until I got pregnant and he proposed. A week to our traditional marriage, and for the first time, I was able to access his phone, which he kept carelessly. I saw that he was making arrangements to cheat. I confronted him, and he apologized. Then I started investigating and found out how he had been cheating on me back-to-back. I got heartbroken because it was just days to our traditional marriage, and my dad didn’t know I was pregnant. I wanted to rush before he could realize it because it was against his family tradition to get pregnant before marriage, and I didn’t know what the outcome would be. I got married to this guy in April this year, and since then, I don’t have a single trust for my husband. I’ve been accessing his phone, which was a request I made when we got married.
He accepted, but recently, when we had issues, someone advised him to lock his phone and never open it for me again. He agreed, and now I can’t access it. Whenever he sees me, he gets so uncomfortable. If I ask, he keeps denying everything and tells me he doesn’t go out aside from work hours, which is at night since he works at a club. He says he can’t misbehave there because the club is close to where we live, but that’s not the case. From the day I said yes till now, I’ve been regretting it and wishing I could turn back time. I just delivered my daughter through CS. We had issues, and I slapped him because he in$ulted my mum, who came for omugor. Right there, in my mum’s presence, he beat the h£ll out of me despite my condition, and my daughter is just three weeks old. A lot has gone wrong in my marriage. A part of me wants to leave, take my daughter, and start afresh. Another part of me wants to stay and fix it.
But I don’t know what to do anymore because the truth is, I can never trust him again, even if he says the truth. There’s no trust in my home, and it’s destroying my marriage every single day. Plus, I can never forgive him for what he did to my mum. If his mum were alive and I in$ulted her, the marriage would have ended right there. My mum wants me to leave the marriage too. From the day we got married till now, I’ve been crying and calling my family. There has not been peace, and they want me out. It looks like I am the only one in my lineage about to have a broken home, and I never wished for such. I’m still young, but I feel like if I leave, will I find love again? Will any man accept me and my child? And when they hear I was married before, how will they see or take me? That has been my concern. Please, what’s your advice? I’ll be in the comments section. Thanks.
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