So, I met this man sometime this year. He dropped me off at my destination and took my number. Meanwhile, before I gave it to him, I asked, “Are you married?” because in my family, sleeping with a married man will bring consequences. He said no, and honestly, he didn’t look like it. We spoke, became close, and he asked me out. I accepted. I went to his place, and we had sex for the first time—raw. He pulled out, which I saw he did. But a few weeks later, I found out I was pregnant. I told him, and he said, “Okay, that’s good news. We will keep it.” We went to the lab, confirmed it, and then he started questioning the paternity 😂😂. I thought all these things only happened in movies. At a point, it became so bad that I told him I was no longer interested and wanted to ab0rt the pregnancy. He said he couldn’t give me money for it. That period, I was broke because I had just paid my clearance fee. I begged this man to give me money, and he later agreed but told me to wait because he was expecting something. I waited, and this child kept growing in me.
I finally borrowed money from a friend and went for a scan. They told me I should go to a hospital because the embryo was double. When I got to the hospital, after hearing the risks involved, I opted to give birth and hand the babies over to a willing family since I couldn’t cater to them. Two days ago, I wrote to this man to sign the agreement, and he left me on read. Now, five months into the pregnancy, he’s back, saying he’s been having nightmares, that he’s sorry, and that he wants to take responsibility. He asked for the sex of the babies. I told him—two boys. And omo, he’s an only son. Now, the problem is that this man has confessed to being married with a child. And he’s saying he can’t marry me as a second wife, but he will be there for the children financially and take care of us. So what happens to me as the mother???? Who will marry a single mom of two boys?? How will I even explain that I ended up a baby mama to a married man?? Who would believe that he lied to me about being married??
Now, the intending family only gives me ₦50k every month, excluding medical bills, and it’s not enough. When he came, I asked him for ₦15k for pregnancy care, and this man sent ₦10k. Now, I’ve asked for money for maternity clothes, and he’s yet to respond. I’m asking for these things now so that he will have a legal right over these children because the doctor that connected me said that’s the only way—and that he would refund every dime they spent on me. But my problem now is, after giving birth, what happens to me and my children? Will I become a baby mama? Do I give birth and leave the children for him and never look back?? Because this man in question is ready to go to any length just to claim ownership of his children but doesn’t want to marry me.
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