I’m a 38-year-old unmarried man. I’ve been making money and super comfortable to raise a family for over 10 years now. Why have I not gotten married, you may think? I’ve never connected with anyone. As much as marriage is beyond love, I don’t want to live miserably. I almost married my ex last year, but I had to let her go because if she’s in my house for 2–3 days, I already get tired and want her to go home. It’s been like that from the very beginning of the relationship, but I persisted because she’s an amazing woman.
Because of this, I can barely commit myself to anyone or a relationship. Anyways, I met someone new in December. I’m 13 years older than her, which is against the standard I’ve set for myself, as I decided the max age difference for me has to be 8 at most. She’s beautiful, and guys, I’m crazy about her. I’m 38, but I feel like a teenager falling in love for the first time! It’s almost scary how much I desire her. I do everything and anything for her.
I always want her in my space—all the time. And the sex? Mind-blowing! I’ve never even admired any other woman since I met her. The only thing I’m struggling with is the massive age gap. She’s a smart, beautiful woman. She oozes positive energy, and she’s extremely intelligent. Would she want to drop her life and be my wife? Would I ever be able to keep her? Don’t get me wrong, my self-esteem is strong, but she’s extremely beautiful—anybody would want to be with her.
I can clearly see how bright her future is; she’s an embodiment of an amazing woman. Sometimes it worries me—would I ever be good for her or enough for her? I’ve not asked her to be my girlfriend officially out of fear that she might reject me. Even my friends laugh at how crazy I am about this young woman. Gen Z, how do I approach her? I’m old school, and I understand that you people’s idea of romance is different. I want to make it official on Valentine’s Day, and I need ideas.
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