So, I was having fun with this guy—not dating or anything serious, just vibes. At some point, I thought maybe there was a future there, but honestly, he was too lazy for my liking and had this habit of showing off. Like, how can you be showing off when you don’t even have money? On top of that, he kept saying he didn’t want a wedding and just wanted someone to give birth for him. I always laughed whenever he brought it up because I knew I wasn’t taking him seriously—I was just enjoying the moment. He came to the UK in 2019 on a student visa but ended up failing his courses, so his school canceled his sponsorship. That made him illegal in the UK. Instead of trying to fix his situation, he was always partying and wasting time. The final straw for me was when I tried to talk to him about his status and suggest ways he could fix it. Instead of appreciating it, he got defensive and started insulting me, saying I was trying to control him and that I shouldn’t tell him what to do. I told him to look at his friends—all of them had sorted out their situations:
some had sponsorships, others were married to white women, and they were all doing better. But instead of reflecting, he said I was comparing him to others and that “everyone has their own fate.” At that point, I couldn’t help but tell him the truth: he was their errand boy. They’d send him to buy things from shops, take the little money he was managing, and never pay him back. They even gave him old clothes they didn’t want anymore—and he’s older than some of them! After I called him their errand boy, he started crying, saying he’s not their errand boy. I just told him to suit himself because I wasn’t about to argue. To be honest, I never saw him as someone I could build a future with. I just saw him as a friend, and I can’t sit back and watch a friend struggle without at least offering to help. But if he didn’t want help, there was nothing I could do, so I stepped back. Ps: I have my own sponsorship so I don’t have any problem. Just trying to look out for him. No biggie.
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